When bereaved parents gather together, special things happen.

Whether you join us online or in person, the conference will be a place where you can experience community with other bereaved parents, discover new insights to help navigate the journey of grief, and find the comfort and hope that can only truly be found in Christ. We hope you’ll join us!

Join online or in person! (All who register will receive the recording links that can be viewed for three weeks following the conference.)

Speakers

Join the conference online or in Lynchburg, Virginia!

Conference Schedule

Friday 11:00 AM - 7:30 PM

10:00 AM — Registration Opens

11:00 AM — General Session

12:30 PM — Lunch

2:00 PM — Breakout Sessions

4:00 PM — Breakout Sessions

5:00 PM — Dinner & Fellowship

6:30 PM — General Session

Saturday 10:00 AM - 7:30 PM

9:30 AM — Doors Open / Coffee & Fellowship

10:00 AM — Breakout Sessions

11:30 AM — Breakout Sessions

12:30 PM — Lunch

2:00 PM — Mini-Gatherings

3:00 - 3:30 PM — Time of Reflection

4:30 PM — General Session

5:30 PM — Dinner & Fellowship

7:00 PM — Memorial Service and Closing

A Heart Full of Questions: Finding Peace in the Journey of Grief — Jim Beardsley

The death of a child brings a flood of questions: Why did this happen? How could a loving God allow this? How can I go on? What did I do wrong? etc, etc. In this session we will attempt to address some of the major questions that accompany child loss, focusing on what the Bible says about the nature of God and our relationship to Him.

Broken Into Beautiful: Inviting Hope to Heal Our Hearts Melanie DeSimone

Child loss is devastating. There is no other way to describe it. I was completely shattered. When my son was killed, I questioned everything I thought I knew and understood about who God is and how He works in the world. Darkness threatened to undo me. But no matter how black the night, the Light of the truth of Christ refused to be quenched. Hope peeked out from behind the shadows and beckoned my heart to invite Him in. Over time, little by little, I was able to do just that. The Lord met me where I was, His Word helped me gain eternal perspective, I began to see how my story was part of the grander story He was writing for all time and Holy Spirit infused my inner being with strength to persevere. Hope isn’t a feeling, it’s a Person. Hope is Jesus. And when we choose to focus our attention on Him, open the door and invite Him into our broken places, He can turn even the terrible brokenness of child loss into a beautiful testimony of His faithful love, sustaining grace and healing power.

Barely Hanging On to the One Who Won’t Let Go  — Leonard and Amy Bailey

Where are you God?  Why have you turned away from me? This can’t be happening. These are common cries that arise out of the depths of suffering.  We will explore what faith looks like when it has been worn threadbare.  When life has been forever altered and your understanding of God’s love is shaken, where can you go for comfort, especially when there are no answers?

Finding Joy in the Midst of the Storm — Scott & Cindy Shufflebarger

While grief is messy, exhausting and disorienting, it is possible to find joy in the midst of the journey.  Scott and Cindy share their story and practical ways that they’ve found meaning and the courage to live a life full of color again.

God’s Faithfulness Through the Journey of Grief — Billy and Julie Melton

Billy and Julie Melton share the story of their deepest loss, their beloved daughter, Juliana, who went to heaven at age 27. Together they trusted Jesus through a brain tumor diagnosis and subsequent sixteen months of treatment. The Lord has sustained them through every step of their journey. The Melton’s offer insights that helped them navigate grief, trusting God with joyful hope, living in light of eternity. 

Grief and Secondary Losses — Jim & Lawrie Beardsley

The death of a child generates a myriad of “secondary losses”. Friendships change. Family dynamics, identities, and expectations are transformed forever. Our ability to engage socially is altered. These secondary losses compound the agony of losing a child. In this session we will discuss practical ways to address some of the common secondary losses that accompany the death of a child.

Understanding the Grieving Brain – Laura Holmes, LPC, CCTP

In this session, Laura Holmes, a grieving mother, who is also a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional will explore what grief is and what it looks like to the individual experiencing it. We will explore the reasons why individuals grieve differently and the vulnerabilities that may lead to complicated grief or prolonged grief disorder. We will also discuss the neuroscience of how the brain processes and adapts to the intense emotions that surface during the grieving process.

The Dance of Grief and Joy — Jeff and Briana Dickson

Observing your children’s milestones (a first day of school, loss of a tooth, learning to ride a bike, etc.) and entertaining familiar questions (How many children do you have?) are often occasions of joy or proud moments. However, losing a child makes witnessing these milestones in the lives of your other children more complicated and answering theses questions awkward or even painful. Life after loss is, in many ways, a dance between grief and joy. In this session, Jeff and Brianna Dickson will share from their own experience, ideas of how to navigate these and other issues.

The Traumatic Effects of Grief — Kelly Brockman & Erin Ketchen

Trauma can be described as the physical and mental effects left on an individual from either one single event or a series of negative events . Trauma affects our entire being; emotional, relational, biological, spiritual and can alter our perspective on God, ourselves, and the world around us. God created us with emotions and feelings and it’s important to recognize that traumatic experiences can leave us confused and misunderstood. Grieving a loss is traumatic. We will look into how the Autonomic Nervous System is impacted by a traumatic event.

When It's Just Us: Hope After the Loss of an Only Child — Blake and Jennifer Mullinax

Navigating life after the devastating loss of an only child is an unfathomably difficult journey no parent ever wishes to take. This session provides a supportive space for parents who find themselves on this path, focusing on the unique struggles and emotions faced in such circumstances. Together, we will explore ways to honor and cherish memories, seek support and solace in community, and find pathways to healing and hope. Through shared stories, compassionate dialogue, and gentle guidance, participants are encouraged to acknowledge their grief, honor their child’s legacy, and explore the resilience within. Join us for an opportunity to connect with others who truly understand, amidst a compassionate and healing environment.

The Faithfulness of God in Suffering — Brad & Jill Sullivan

While walking the painful road of terminal cancer with their daughter, Hannah, the Sullivans were thrust into a world of suffering that they had not experienced before. When Hannah went to Heaven in 2009, Brad and Jill were faced with the deepest grief a parent can know. Yet through the difficult journey, they found that the Lord was with them every step of the way. In December of 2023, Brad was in a devastating ATV accident which should have ended his life. And again, they saw the Lord’s comfort, care, and love through the journey of suffering. Whether you are mourning the loss of a child, or experiencing other suffering, you will find new discoveries and insights about God’s faithfulness and His love for you.

Beneficial Theology for the Bereaved — Ernie & Karen Richards

The loss of a child should be an open door for GOD to speak to us in our pain. But people “preaching” to us in our grief can be like sandpaper on open wounds. Sadly, “theology” has become a bad word for too many bereaved parents. But there is a vast difference between good theology and bad, and right and timely application and MIS-application that lacks sensitivity and compassion. This workshop will explore why the appropriate use of true, healthy theology is crucial to our faith and to real healing.

Is Healing Possible? — Carol Brown

In this session we'll explore what it means to align our thoughts with God’s, find practical ways to care for ourselves and diffuse negative emotions, and begin to live our lives with new purpose and meaning. 

Staying Married through the Unimaginable — Chuck & Laura Holmes

The loss of a child is devastating and can shift the foundation of the family forever. It affects everything in that parent’s life. The feelings associated with grief from the death of a child will remain longer than any other death. In his book, Experiencing the Loss of a Family Member, H. Norman Wright states “It is estimated that 90 percent of all couples who lost a child face some kind of marital struggle within the first year after the death." In this session, Chuck & Laura openly share how their individual struggles through the loss of their youngest son Jamie took a toll on their marriage and how they learned how to grieve together and rebuild their relationship after such significant loss.

Where Do We Go From Here? — Brad & Jill Sullivan, Gary & Laura House

After two days of experiencing the amazing comfort found in the community of bereaved parents, learning from each other, and finding help and hope for the grief journey, where do we go from here? This session will explore the truths that we know to be absolutes to guide and direct our paths, as we all continue to walk this difficult road. We hope you will leave this place encouraged, equipped, and with a deeper understanding of the Lord.

Navigating Suicide Loss — Gary & Laura House, Jim & Lawrie Beardsley, Blake & Jennifer Mullinax, Ernie & Karen Richards

There are many common misconceptions regarding suicide that effect the grieving process for parents who have lost children. Losing a child by suicide presents some unique circumstances and challenges. If you are a grieving parent, we hope this workshop will bring comfort and hope. If you have not lost a child by suicide, then we hope the time together will help you better understand and equip you to help a grieving parent.

Roundtable Discussion for Dads — Panel

This interactive session will address topics and questions unique to a father’s grief. In addition to the questions submitted by attendees at registration, and the questions posed during the workshop, the panel will share their own experiences regarding difficult issues they have faced in the grieving process.

Roundtable Discussion for Moms — Panel

This interactive session will address topics and questions unique to a father’s grief. In addition to the questions submitted by attendees at registration, and the questions posed during the workshop, the panel will share their own experiences regarding difficult issues they have faced in the grieving process.

Memorial Crafts

Throughout the conference, a craft room will be open for those who want to create something in memory of their child. A variety of options are available such as ceramic plates, rock painting, wood crafts, ornaments, magnets, acrylic painting on a canvas, etc.

Location:

Calvary Baptist Church 20957 Timberlake Road Lynchburg, VA 24502

Accommodations:

There are many Priceline hotels, AirBnB, and Vrbo options available for accommodations.

If you have questions or need help locating accommodations, please email Laura@ourheartsarehome.org

Travel:

There are three airport possibilities and sometimes the rates vary widely. Also, Amtrak comes to Lynchburg.

  1. Lynchburg Regional Airport - (local)

  2. Roanoke - Blacksburg Regional Airport (~1 hour)

  3. Charlottesville - Albemarle Airport (~1.5 hours)

Known as the “City of Seven Hills,” Lynchburg is located in Central Virginia at the foothills of the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains and alongside the James River.

If you plan to stay for a few days, Lynchburg is a city full of historical places to visit, an abundance of specialty restaurants, and offers a wide variety of other opportunities. There are additional amazing opportunities within just a short drive of the city.

Can’t join in person? Join us online!

In addition to viewing the live sessions, participants can opt into a small group that will meet throughout the weekend via Zoom. This will be a wonderful opportunity to get to know other bereaved parents face-to-face.

The OHAH online conference team shown below will be available to connect with during the conference in the chat box and they will also be facilitating the small groups throughout the conference via Zoom.

Online Conference Facilitators

What can you expect at the online conference?

  • Enjoy four general sessions.

  • Choose three breakout sessions.

  • Opt to join a small group via Zoom during the conference.

  • Participate in a mini-gathering via Zoom.

  • Attend a memorial service.

  • Connect with other bereaved parents.

  • Receive recordings of sessions.

“This conference helped me with the grieving process I am currently in with the loss of my son, James. I really enjoyed it and I can hardly wait for the next conference.” — Michelle, James’ Mom

“This event can be attended as a single parent and not held to attending as a couple. A lot of husbands/wives are silent grievers. Don’t be held back because you are afraid to attend alone. You won’t be disappointed!” — Grace Anne’s Mom

“Even at seven years into grief with the traumatic loss of our daughter and volunteering in grief support since then, spending time with other bereaved parents is always helpful, informative and encouraging. I highly recommend their conferences, even online.” — Linda D.

“. . . encouragement for the greatest loss of my life, to see other parents who have lost children serving others.” —Kent’s Mom

“The conference was so helpful to me as a bereaved mom. I was encouraged by the stories and transparency of the conference leaders and speakers in how they have moved from surviving to thriving in spite of dealing with their tragic circumstances.” — Marlene R.

OHAH facilitators are not trained grief counselors but are simply bereaved parents and fellow journeyers who are navigating the difficult path of child loss. Participating in an OHAH event should not be viewed in any way as a substitute for professional counseling.